Get help
We believe you. You are not alone.
There are safe ways to get help — for yourself or for someone you care about. Start here, at your own pace.
A delayed exit can lead to an untimely death.
If you are in immediate danger, call 112 — it is free from any network and connects you to the police. If you cannot speak, call 112 and cough, tap or press any button so the operator knows you need help, then leave the line open. Or call Goshen on 0802 777 5001 — confidential, 24/7.
Wherever you are in this journey, there is a kind voice waiting on the other end of the line.
Helplines
Numbers you can call
All calls are free and confidential. Save the ones that matter to you.
How it works
Three simple steps to get help
However you reach out, you decide how far you want to take it. Nothing happens without your consent.
Reach out
Call, message or WhatsApp us — any hour. It is confidential and you are in control of what happens next.
Plan your safety
Together we make a safety plan for you and your children, whatever you decide to do.
Get the help you need
We connect you with shelter, counselling, police and legal support — as much or as little as you want.
For loved ones
I'm worried about someone
You may have noticed changes in a friend, sister, colleague or neighbour. You are not powerless — support can begin with you.
What you can do
- · Let them know you believe them and it is not their fault
- · Ask gently, in private, and listen without judging
- · Offer to look up numbers and go with them if they want
- · Respect their decisions — leaving takes time and planning
- · Keep supporting them even if they stay for now
What to avoid
- · Don’t confront the abuser — it can put her at greater risk
- · Don’t blame or question her choices
- · Don’t share details on social media or with others
- · Don’t promise secrecy if someone is in danger
- · Don’t try to handle it alone — call a helpline for advice
Not sure what to say? Call us and a trained advisor can talk you through it before you reach out to them.
0802 777 5001Trust your gut
Is this domestic violence?
Abuse is about control. If you see more than one of these in a relationship, it may be abuse.
They isolate you from friends, family or your place of worship
They control your money, phone or where you go
They shout, insult or humiliate you regularly
They threaten you, your children or themselves
They have pushed, slapped or hurt you
They pressure or force you into sex
They make you feel it is always your fault
For professionals
I want to make a referral
Health workers, teachers, police officers, faith leaders and social workers can refer women and children in danger to our refuge. Our team will assess the situation and find the right support.
To make a referral:
- Call our referral line 0802 777 5001
- Or use the referral form
We only proceed with a survivor’s consent unless a life is in danger.
Stay safe online
Cover your tracks
If someone checks your phone, tablet or computer, here are ways to browse more safely.
Use a safer device
If you can, use a computer at a library, workplace, a friend's house or a public cybercafé to visit sites like ours.
Browse privately
Use incognito or private browsing, and remember that phones with tracking apps may still be monitored.
Clear your history
Delete this site from your browser history and search suggestions. Log out of shared accounts.
If it is safer, skip the internet and call us: 0802 777 5001